Speak to the King in Your Husband!

BY: Anonymous (Stander, Leader, Intercessor)

I was so delighted when I heard evangelist Mike Murdock speak a very wise statement.  
 
"A foolish wife speaks to the fool in her husband, and she gets the fool back. But the wise wife speaks to the king in her husband, and she gets the king back."
 
It is easy to see our husbands' faults, and it can become a nasty habit to point them out to him. In Dr. Emerson Eggerichs' book Love and Respect, he talks about how important it is for a husband to love his wife and how important it is for the wife to respect her husband. I have seen many marriages healed when the wife took on this challenge to look for the king in her husband and speak it to him.  
 
I didn't realize that one of the curses put on Eve was that "Your desire will be for our husband and he shall rule over you." (Genesis 3:16b). One of the possible definitions of the rare Hebrew word "teshuqah" is "desire to control." When a wife tries to control her husband, it can often lead to strife. In James 3:16 (KJV), it says, "For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work."  No one needs confusion in their marriage, and indeed we don't want every evil work! Father, help us to see our spouses as You see them and admire and respect them.
 
It has been said that when a man marries his wife, he wants her to stay exactly the way she was when they got married. Often when a wife marries her husband, she sets out to change him for the better. I certainly meant well when I did this, but now I realize that it was a bad mistake.  
 
Titus 2 says, that the older women should teach the younger women how to be a good wife. In this day and time, the older women have not been taught, and through lack of knowledge, our marriages have fallen apart. Thankfully, there is much helpful information on how to have a blessed covenant marriage. One of the sources is the teaching that Covenant Keepers ministry provides. I have learned so much since I have become a Covenant Keeper, and I am devoted to becoming the wife God has called me to be and to teach the younger wives how to make their home a haven for their families.                                               
 
Jeremiah 33:3 says - "Call on Me, and I will tell you great and mighty things - the hidden things that you do not know."  I pray that we will call out to You, God and that You will teach us great and mighty things as to how to have a blessed and happy marriage. Let us make it our mission to share it with others. 
 
 Lord, teach us how to speak to our kings!! 
 
 In Jesus' name. Amen.